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Leaving a Legacy or Cooking with Grandma

If you’ve ever seen a five-year old help grandma cook, you’ll know what I mean. Picture the cute little girl or boy, with grandma’s apron tied around the waist, doubled over, and grazing the floor. Norman Rockwell could have painted this picture… if he was around to take the elevator to the thirty-third floor of grandma’s condo. I’m amazed that I’m here, continuing traditions that get passed down from generation to generation. I helped my grandma cook, and now I’m the grandma. And on it will go.

In Judaism, our prayers are very structured. There’s an order to Jewish prayer, and precise words we pray with. Praising our ancestors is a very big deal in our prayer service. We praise ‘em in the beginning, the middle and in the end. We’re connected to the magnificent history that came before us, by remembering our ancestors when we pray.

By definition, an ancestor is the generations beyond your grandparents. Today, it’s not unusual for kids to know their ancestors. Great-grandparents abound. They’re meeting the little ones for lunch and hanging-out with them at the mall.  Ancestors aren’t just for bible stories anymore.

A few years ago, I went with my mom to Waldheim. There are a few cemeteries, where Jewish Chicagoans bury their dead. Waldheim is the oldest. Armed with a computer print-out, we visited the graves of my ancestors. My mom knew all of their stories, the maiden aunt who lived with her grand-parents, and a cousin twice-removed whose only child died young. The legacy that her family left was one of togetherness: aunts and uncles, brothers and sisters, staying close and taking care of each other.

What kind of legacy will I leave for the kids of my grandkids and so on? Will I get to know them, play with them and love them? Is there something really outstanding that I will do in my lifetime that will turn into a story to be remembered and repeated? Is it possible that I will be praised when someone of my lineage says their prayers?

I’ll try to live a life worthy of legacy, but not because I’m looking for fame or glory. Lauren Bacall does not have to worry about me. I will not become a “legend most” in Blackglama’s advertising campaign. As I work towards leaving a legacy, and I reflect upon time spent cooking with grandma, I’ll draw upon my purpose. I’m here to simply, praise, labor and love. I read that in a prayer book once and it stuck with me. So here I am, living my legacy: Laboring— for sure, Loving— undoubtedly, and Praising— endlessly.

Praise Song

Praise to You
Who whispers to us
in a spring breeze,
in the sigh of leaves overhead,
in the chuckle of a running stream.

Praise to You
Who cries out to us
in the roar of waves
endless,
ever present,
all encompassing,
making You known.

Praise to You
Who calls to us
in the pop and creak of ice,
in the thump of snow sliding
in the stillness of a frozen day.

Praise to You
who puts Your song
in the hearts of the birds
and in all who gather
to sing to You.
Praise to You.

-Sue Bradford Edwards